Singles Board? Please Vote!

[Sambarella]

I am single and ready to mingle.  Single boards are good mmmmmkay  8-) :2cool:

[merm]

Under absolutely no circumstances should anyone be posting personal details on the internet for the public anywhere at any time - no matter if it's a singles site, myspace, or this site. That being said, many people still choose to post all kinds of personal information out there for the public to see and search engines to spider (and archive.org to permanently archive). It's totally their choice, and the same would be true for the singles board.

That being said, I personally feel that the dynamic of the board, and it's community-centered-dialog may actually make for a unique singles experience. If you're just looking to post for "hot sex" for example I have a feeling astorians might not be the place for you - but there's lots of sites out there that serve that demo well.

[Jtrane]

Under absolutely no circumstances should anyone be posting personal details on the internet for the public anywhere at any time - no matter if it's a singles site, myspace, or this site. That being said, many people still choose to post all kinds of personal information out there for the public to see and search engines to spider (and archive.org to permanently archive). It's totally their choice, and the same would be true for the singles board.

Hey merm, can I have your credit card #?

[Alexa]

Rather than a singles board per se, what about just something similar to OUT Astoria, only SINGLES Astoria, where singles events, etc. could be posted, with no personal info, anything like that, and just events that cater to single individuals.

[enigmacat]

I wonder if the new board could be something not immediately accessible. Not highly restricted, but not something anyone could surf in and see/post in - you'd have to join astorians first and then request access. I don't know about the rest of you but when it comes to astorians and dating sites, I have different "security levels". I want people who might be dating me to have access to information that I don't want the general public (via astorians) to have access too. etc etc

are we talking about posting profiles and contacting other singles via pm, or just talking about being single and setting up mixers etc?

[erpotown]

Rather than a singles board per se, what about just something similar to OUT Astoria, only SINGLES Astoria, where singles events, etc. could be posted, with no personal info, anything like that, and just events that cater to single individuals.

I think this is a good idea. That way, if you want to participate in the Astoria singles scene you can just visit that section of the board. MCW, I think your "all of the above" can fall into this category then.

[paratactical]

I wonder if maybe we could enable the ability to delete and edit posts. Especially because it wouldn't be too pleasant to put up a singles ad or what have you and then months and months later have it get bumped up when you're kind of seeing someone, or what you put in the ad no longer applies.

I know lots of the other message boards I frequent allow people to delete posts or at least edit their content and I think that would be useful in guarding the flow of personal information.

[Sambarella]

I wonder if maybe we could enable the ability to delete and edit posts. Especially because it wouldn't be too pleasant to put up a singles ad or what have you and then months and months later have it get bumped up when you're kind of seeing someone, or what you put in the ad no longer applies.

I know lots of the other message boards I frequent allow people to delete posts or at least edit their content and I think that would be useful in guarding the flow of personal information.

This would be a must and I agree with paratactical.  It doesnt have to be a big complicated thought out process.  Just make a SINGLES section as there is with the OUT astoria.  I doubt it will turn into a match.com or a swingers meeting place, its most likely going to be a discussion of singles out there, mixer info, dating, whatever.  But ability to delete posts should be key.  I dont see why we cant delete posts now. 

[paratactical]

This would be a must and I agree with paratactical.  It doesnt have to be a big complicated thought out process.  Just make a SINGLES section as there is with the OUT astoria.  I doubt it will turn into a match.com or a swingers meeting place, its most likely going to be a discussion of singles out there, mixer info, dating, whatever.  But ability to delete posts should be key.  I dont see why we cant delete posts now.  

I agree. Or edit. I know it leads to ddubbin' but there are definitely places where I mentioned the street I live on and such and while I didn't mind sharing it with the current conversation, I'd kinda like to be able to go back and edit the statements.

[NYCMacUser]

But ability to delete posts should be key.  I dont see why we cant delete posts now. 

Because it seriously impedes the continuity of a thread.

[paratactical]

I understand that it messes up continuity, but with older threads, or in the beginnings of long threads, I don't see why it would be a problem or why a poster shouldn't be allowed to chose to do so.

[angastoria]

now being newly single, I'm all for it.

[RedSoxfanNYC]

I'm not familiar with the BB software used here but I know with vbulletin you can make it so that some forums can't even be seen by guests or certain user groups. (which I assume would include search engine spiders). This would help protect people's privacy a lot if it is decided to allow people to posts ads of sorts.

I don't know if it is possible, but maybe having it so that only the OP can respond would be good as well, letting any interested parties communicate through e-mail or PM.

[rnrollgirl]

i think everyone is getting a little off-topic.

it seems that most people wouldn't mind seeing a separate section for singles or for other personal issues.  it seems to be a given that it could only serve those who want something like that, and if you're not in the "market" then it doesn't really affect you.  that's that, really.

however to go along with all of the side-notes, i think if you are posting information about yourself that you're uncomfortable with (or may be down the road), that you really should rethink your postings from the beginning.  i'm guessing everyone on this site is  pretty internet savvy, so whether it's an Astorians' posting, or an IM, or something you put on MySpace, you should realize that you're putting information out there that potentially EVERYONE can see at some point in time.

[paratactical]

i think everyone is getting a little off-topic.

it seems that most people wouldn't mind seeing a separate section for singles or for other personal issues.  it seems to be a given that it could only serve those who want something like that, and if you're not in the "market" then it doesn't really affect you.  that's that, really.

however to go along with all of the side-notes, i think if you are posting information about yourself that you're uncomfortable with (or may be down the road), that you really should rethink your postings from the beginning.  i'm guessing everyone on this site is  pretty internet savvy, so whether it's an Astorians' posting, or an IM, or something you put on MySpace, you should realize that you're putting information out there that potentially EVERYONE can see at some point in time.

The issue is how to get rid of the ad when you're not single or not looking.