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Title: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: plank on October 28, 2008, 12:44:25 PM
if any.


mine:

chain smoker
yankee fan  :-D
republicon

Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: newastorian35 on October 28, 2008, 01:11:07 PM
Any kind of smoking

Live with parents

Speak negatively about their family or their exes
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: NYCMacUser on October 28, 2008, 01:31:47 PM
• has a pet goat
• needs ED medication
• can't drive
• nose hairs that hang to their upper lip
• calling a female restaurant server by an affectionate name (i.e., baby, sweetie, dear)
• offensive body odor
• constant crotch adjustment or scratching
• uses ketchup on everything
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: plank on October 28, 2008, 01:37:29 PM

oh and...

doesn't like dogs

doesn't drink (i seem much more appealing after a few drinks)
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: Jtrane on October 28, 2008, 03:02:23 PM
Any kind of smoking

Live with parents

Speak negatively about their family or their exes

But what if the ex deserves it?
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: odenhal on October 28, 2008, 03:38:04 PM
 :roll: When they are prettier than me

I REFUSE TO BE THE UGLY ONE

any wonder why i'm single
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: casicua on October 28, 2008, 04:04:19 PM
:roll: When they are prettier than me

I REFUSE TO BE THE UGLY ONE

any wonder why i'm single

You mean to tell me you can't find someone less attractive than you to date?
What kind of Quasimodo looking dude are you??
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: casicua on October 28, 2008, 04:06:08 PM
My deal breakers:
- Will not date anyone with overt sense of propriety
- Must be a Mets fan
- Sense of humor- has to get the dry humor and the outright crude humor as well
- Lack of self-awareness is a big No No
- Trying to be something you're not is the kiss of death

<---Oh, and must like my puppy. That's a major one.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: MFells on October 28, 2008, 04:28:41 PM
FUN TOPIC!

Casicua - I'm glad you put about your dog first, because my #1 rule is that they must atleast accept my cat (Zoey <----) and not be allergic to cats, non-smoker, no drugs, no excessive baggage that they are not over (ex wives, ex- girlfriends etc) and no facial hair...

Though, maybe I am a bit picky, I've been single a while....
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: paratactical on October 28, 2008, 04:48:58 PM
Man, I'm amazed at how many of you would find me to be a deal-breaker! Well, I suppose I'd rather date a smoker than a non-smoker anyway.

I think, though, that most things are not deal-breakers for me. What really matters the most to me is an open mind. Don't like my pet right away? Well, what counts isn't whether or not you like 'em, but if you're willing to give it a try and adjust.

I'm not single, though, so I guess I don't count, but I think it's not any single thing that's a deal breaker, but the idea that someone wouldn't *try* to get used to some quirk or something that's important to me.

Though, I can't date Yankees fans.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: Starwind51 on October 28, 2008, 05:46:01 PM
A guy once told me, at the beginning of our relationship, "ask me anything, I don't want to keep anything from you, ask me anything".  A few months later, here was something I hadn't thought to ask him about: he told me, before we met, he had been asked to do a porn movie, and after saying yes, changed his mind and decided not to.  I never knew whether or not to believe that he hadn't done it. 

So, although it's a deal breaker, I cannot imagine asking a guy I've just met whether or not he's ever done porn, or even considered it. 
   
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: thanos27 on October 28, 2008, 08:51:45 PM
Drugs are a def no-no
If u hate animals u are a goner
Redsox fan = please jump off  a near bridge
Mets fan = will never match the yankees success so what can u really say to me abt my team ?
If u smoke its a huge turnoff , at least be very willing to stop
Being healthy and trying to stay in good shape is a huge plus
Good sense of humor is great
Must like my puppy

..last of all , dont mine if a chica is prettier than me at all  :)
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: Christine on October 28, 2008, 10:22:04 PM

Also, any guy who couldn't take my bike obsession. Luckily I found a guy who's almost more obsessed than I am  :roll:


Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: daisy on October 28, 2008, 10:28:59 PM
No drugs or smoking of any kind.  Alcohol is fine but of course I don't want an alcoholic.

Respect for yourself and others.  If a guy were to ever once get violent or possessive with me, I'm out.  A real man doesn't need to throw his aggression all over the place.  If we're at a baseball game and you start fighting with the opposite's team's fans and then get thrown out, I'm not impressed.  

Drugs and respect are the two big ones.  I could list all the cliches of what I do want, but in the end (except for the two big ones), I'm usually willing to compromise and work on things.

Ignorance, racism, and homophobia are huge turnoffs.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: daisy on October 28, 2008, 10:30:33 PM
Oh but slurpers and sloppy saliva kissers are pretty nasty.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: thanos27 on October 28, 2008, 10:32:31 PM
Chics that fart are also OUT big time !
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: paratactical on October 28, 2008, 10:34:23 PM
Chics that fart are also OUT big time !

 :roll:

"Chics" that don't fart, ever, aren't real.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: thanos27 on October 28, 2008, 10:36:23 PM
Ok well let one out silent then ,   dont do it on a date . I find that horrible .


....And yes it has happend to me  where a girl got drunk and farted the night away.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: paratactical on October 28, 2008, 10:54:01 PM
Ok well let one out silent then ,   dont do it on a date . I find that horrible .


....And yes it has happend to me  where a girl got drunk and farted the night away.

Ha ha. That I understand--the desire for the silent ones.

A little tipsy, I've never had that problem. Hung over, however.... ha ha ha.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: plank on October 29, 2008, 12:20:21 PM

if I were a chick, one of my deal breakers would be using a photo without a shirt on as a message board avatar.  :-D
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: MFells on October 29, 2008, 12:54:00 PM
I totally agree. I recently joined match (in my search to to find mr. right) and one the biggest turn offs to me is when a guy's pictures are all 1/2 naked and flexing his muscles... ...
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: thanos27 on October 29, 2008, 08:24:51 PM
Yea well chances are , without a shirt YOU wouldnt look as good . So keep your avatar and do us a favor .
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: NYCMacUser on October 29, 2008, 08:26:12 PM
Yea well chances are , without a shirt YOU wouldnt look as good . So keep your avatar and do us a favor .
Who cares if you have muscles? The real question is do you character?
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: Alexa on October 29, 2008, 11:50:02 PM
I thought that avatar was a joke....that's real??? can you blame the guy for showing it off. I take no offense.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: thanos27 on October 30, 2008, 01:20:47 AM
Y wouldnt one with muscles have character as well ? Dont judge cuz both can go hand in hand .
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: NYCMacUser on October 30, 2008, 01:18:16 PM
Y wouldnt one with muscles have character as well ? Dont judge cuz both can go hand in hand .
Yeah, I guess narcissism is part of character!
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: casicua on October 30, 2008, 05:04:58 PM
Y wouldnt one with muscles have character as well ? Dont judge cuz both can go hand in hand .

You're absolutely right, but the fact that you have that as your avatar speaks to the character portion. (Please don't beat me up)
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: AJTNYC on October 30, 2008, 05:20:49 PM
Let's not judge a book by it's cover and let's stop obsessing over Thanos' avatar.  Please return the discussion to the topic of this thread.

Thanks all.

AJTNYC,
Mod
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: edava on October 30, 2008, 09:41:24 PM
When I was single and was looking for a "serious" relationship, it was: smoker, religious, loud eater/smacker/slurper, non-athletic, doesn't have an opinion about politics, un-ambitious, rude to waiters, isn't an adventurous eater, is chauvinistic (worse, when they don't even know it.)
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: thanos27 on October 31, 2008, 12:21:43 AM
Yea stop hating my pic , its something im rather proud of though .  You on the other hand are a mets fan and state it quite proudly ,  that to some is a huge turnoff  :)
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: newastorian35 on October 31, 2008, 07:19:13 AM
I find it to be a huge turn-off if a guy DOESN'T have muscles and does not work out...  I spend a lot of time at the gym and enjoy working out and need someone who feels the same way.  And a guy with a fat belly is a huge turn-off, but too skinny is even worse!

But, I also have friends who love the skinny guys--everyone has their "type".
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: thanos27 on October 31, 2008, 08:02:26 AM
Huge fat belly is actually worse , health wise but very very skinny looks bad as well. People who are very into taling care of themselves , going to the gym , eating healthy , not smoking etc are most likely going to want someone the same . Its not always the case , but most of the times .    The worst for me is when someone doesnt work out or take care of themselves and then in return will only want someone in great shape , and becomes the pickiest person when it comes to dating . I have some friends like that  and to me it makes no sense.  Like we would go out to bars , my friends being single wouldnt even look at a girl 5 lbs overweight , meanwhile their guts were hanging .
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: pineapple on October 31, 2008, 09:18:33 AM
Deal breaker: a guy who refuses or even resists wearing a condom.  bye, bye
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: Christine on October 31, 2008, 09:31:40 AM
Don't get me wrong- a gym rat is better than a beer belly redneck! But it's the guys who are so self-centered that they make all the noise dropping weights hard etc. If you're so strong, why can't you put the weights down slowly and count it as an extra rep?! :rolleyes:

Guys who live beyond their means to impress people- always preferred guys who make a good living and drive old reliable cars, for example, over the reverse. Fiscal responsibility is important, even if they're not rich.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: thanos27 on October 31, 2008, 10:04:59 AM
True  weight dropping really sucks and is annoying to others around you .
Most people now get caught up with all the "toys" out there .  Leasing a new car when its costing u an arm and a leg , gas , full insurance  and payments all add up to alot . Unless u use it almost everyday , its kinda of a waste .  Going out to fancy dinners all the time , spending on big name brand handbags and shoes is something alot of women i know do . I think its good to live within your means while saving for a rainy day . The way the economy is and will probably be for a while , having saved in the past is a smart thing now .
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: odenhal on October 31, 2008, 11:02:04 AM
Odenhal's deal breaker....Men, i will not date men, i dont care how much you make or how buff you are . If you are now or have ever been a man Odenhal will not date you.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: HI575857 on October 31, 2008, 11:19:38 AM
Religion is a big deal breaker for me when looking at a long-term dating situation. I don't think I could date someone who was devoutly religious or a regular church goer no matter how perfect they were for me otherwise.

Of course, most religious people wouldn't want to date an atheist like myself anyway.

It's always disappointing when an otherwise quality girl starts talking about their personal relationship with God on a date.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: goldfish on October 31, 2008, 11:28:50 AM
I don't have a problem with people who are religious, as long as they have actually thought it out instead of blindly following dogma, and as long as they don't try to bludgeon me with their faith.  I promise not to bludgeon them with mine.

I do have a problem with racists, homophobes, the willfully ignorant, and abusers.  Oh, and guys who are shorter than me make me feel like a giraffe.   :|
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: goldfish boy on October 31, 2008, 11:59:10 AM
Any woman who is not attracted to me, forget it.  Total deal-breaker.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: TRX on October 31, 2008, 12:18:11 PM

What is the "deal"?


Not sure about deal-breakers, but I would say you MUST have a sense of humor.
Life is short. Thankfully, most females are fine. Some have better humor than others. And one is especially fun.   :-P


Odenhal, someone goes through the trouble of Trans Ops, and you still turn her(him) down??
Okay.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: plank on October 31, 2008, 12:23:19 PM
Yea stop hating my pic , its something im rather proud of though .  You on the other hand are a mets fan and state it quite proudly ,  that to some is a huge turnoff  :)

this is true. but it is a turn-on for woman who like losers and have very low expectations.  :-D
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: odenhal on October 31, 2008, 12:27:20 PM
What is the "deal"?
Odenhal, someone goes through the trouble of Trans Ops, and you still turn her(him) down??
Okay.

to answer your question.....yes

please note from this day forward any reference to Odenhal must be in bold lettering. That's right bold just like Odenhal   :-D  :-o

if this is not strictly adhered to the penalties will be swift and severe
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: TRX on October 31, 2008, 12:40:48 PM

penalties will be swift

 any relationship to swiftboat

that's a deal breaker
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: newastorian35 on November 02, 2008, 10:02:27 AM
Deal breaker: a guy who refuses or even resists wearing a condom.  bye, bye

So, the people neg-nodding this post are into STD-spreading?  Come on, now!

As we are all unique, we all have different "deal-breakers".  If we all were into the same things, then everyone in the world would be fighting over the same few people...  It's not really fair to judge others for their personal taste in people they'd like to date.  It's fun to hear what others consider to be a "deal-breaker" and what they're looking for.  It really shows that there is someone out there for everyone.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: Alison on November 02, 2008, 04:18:16 PM
Do I like hanging out with you? Cool. If I don't like hanging out with you, that's a deal-breaker. Unfortunately, there are about ten bajillion variables in both, so I can't really define any of them. And I'm a Mets fan and EVERYTHING.

I once read a personal ad that said "your second toe MUST be shorter than your big toe." I'm all for different strokes, but MAN....someone's nit-picky.

(also you must be exactly 1/32nd Irish and have lived in North Dakota for 2.73 years. no more, no less.  :wink: )
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: Jtrane on November 02, 2008, 05:52:13 PM
Women that don't make at least 3 times as much money as me. I'm only looking for sugar mamma's at this point to finance my lifestyle so I can quit my job.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: NYCMacUser on November 02, 2008, 07:42:51 PM
Women that don't make at least 3 times as much money as me. I'm only looking for sugar mamma's at this point to finance my lifestyle so I can quit my job.
Be careful, BE VERY CAREFUL, of what you wish for!
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: Jtrane on November 02, 2008, 07:44:13 PM
Be careful, BE VERY CAREFUL, of what you wish for!
HA! Too true.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: Alexa on November 03, 2008, 12:59:24 PM
You know what they say...when you marry for money, you earn it.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: HI575857 on November 03, 2008, 01:51:54 PM
I don't have a problem with people who are religious, as long as they have actually thought it out instead of blindly following dogma

People who have "thought out" and studied religion, the history of religions and the history of their religion are atheists. I say that only slightly jokingly.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: goldfish on November 03, 2008, 05:01:45 PM
People who have "thought out" and studied religion, the history of religions and the history of their religion are atheists. I say that only slightly jokingly.

It's a sad truth that many people's faiths can't survive examination.  Most people who actually stop to take a look at what they're doing get turned off to the whole faith/spirituality experience.  A few of us, however, just wind up leaving the highway of religiosity and pushing our own way through the brush. :)
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: paratactical on November 03, 2008, 05:10:12 PM
People who have "thought out" and studied religion, the history of religions and the history of their religion are atheists. I say that only slightly jokingly.

It's a sad truth that many people's faiths can't survive examination.  Most people who actually stop to take a look at what they're doing get turned off to the whole faith/spirituality experience.  A few of us, however, just wind up leaving the highway of religiosity and pushing our own way through the brush. :)

The point of faith is that it isn't just an intellectual endeavor.

You can study religion, its worldly histories and still have powerful, passionate, compelling faith.

You're both confusing the blind faith of religious zealots as being the only faith and forgetting the faith that can accept science, progress and logic and still possess belief and morality from a religion.
Title: what is essential Re: what are your "deal"
Post by: TRX on November 03, 2008, 05:49:52 PM

As an atheist/agnostic, there are a number of expressions that come to mind.
Though I will say that world viewpoints are very important in relationships.


"what is essential is invisible to the eye"


"a little study of science leads you away from God; a great deal of study of science will bring you closer to God"


"the heart has reasons that reason does not know"
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: Jtrane on November 03, 2008, 07:22:16 PM
Hijackers of posts. Total deal breaker. :-P
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: paratactical on November 03, 2008, 07:22:41 PM
Hijackers of posts. Total deal breaker. :-P

Then you wouldn't date yourself.  :-P
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: EddieStjohns on November 03, 2008, 07:55:39 PM
Women who:

   Drink more than me
   Weigh more than me
   Shave more than me
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: neo11 on November 03, 2008, 11:43:46 PM
Women who:
   Shave more than me

Legs and pits included?
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: Jtrane on November 04, 2008, 12:07:11 AM
Then you wouldn't date yourself.  :-P

There you go with that negative campaigning again. I don't know what you're talking about. I've never hijacked a post on here.  :roll:
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: newastorian35 on November 04, 2008, 06:40:25 AM
Legs and pits included?

ha, I was thinking the same thing!  Women  have  a much larger area to shave than men do
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: chickabelle on November 05, 2008, 11:32:38 AM
Dealbreakers-too religious (less is better in my book), ignorant, no sense of humor, alcoholic & drugs (but he should drink a little bit), unintelligent, rude, being abusive or possessive and prefer no smoking. 
Title: Re: what is essential Re: what are your "deal"
Post by: HI575857 on November 11, 2008, 12:31:17 PM
If the girl is boring/non-adventurous in bed.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: enigmacat on November 11, 2008, 02:57:24 PM
essentials - openminded and tolerant. curious about the world, about different people and different viewpoints. highly social or willing to tolerate social person. must love books. strong verbal skills a big, big plus. musical abilities also a plus. atheist/agnostic/uu preferred.

dealbreakers - manipulative behavior, incompatable pheromones, violent behavior, alcoholism, heavy drugs, smoking, rudeness, voting republican.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: plank on November 11, 2008, 03:00:14 PM
tanorexics - girls who go to tanning salons.

girls who neg nod me!  :cry:

frequently yapping loudly on cell phones/chronic texting.

and also, girls who have pickle arms.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: plank on November 11, 2008, 03:03:45 PM
dealbreakers - manipulative behavior, incompatable pheromones, violent behavior, alcoholism, heavy drugs, smoking, rudeness, voting republican.

can you define "heavy drugs"?  :-D
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: enigmacat on November 11, 2008, 03:49:34 PM
more than 10 pounds!
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: EddieStjohns on November 11, 2008, 04:07:01 PM
and also, girls who have pickle arms.

What are pickle arms?
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: thanos27 on November 11, 2008, 04:19:20 PM
cankles are also a no-no.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: daisy on November 11, 2008, 05:42:37 PM
Pickle arms and cankles?  Explain please.  Never heard of either.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: paratactical on November 11, 2008, 07:19:56 PM
Pickle arms and cankles?  Explain please.  Never heard of either.

Cankles:

(http://goupstate.us/UserFiles/Image/cankle2.jpg)

Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: thanos27 on November 12, 2008, 01:40:59 AM
Yes thats a cankle , u beat me to it ! 


Cankles suck !
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: johnny4evah! on November 12, 2008, 12:43:56 PM
Hmmm, "pickle arms". Let me guess- are those arms with little bumpy, pimply things all over? :-o
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: plank on November 12, 2008, 12:58:40 PM

literally, pickle arms.

instead of actual arms, she has dill pickles as arms.

it's not very enjoyable cuddling with someone who has pickle arms.

(I know, I'm very picky)
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: newastorian35 on November 12, 2008, 01:55:59 PM
I've never seen a pickle-arm.  Is this a common thing to encounter?

Is it similar to pickle-chest?  I am just now creating this term... it's when a guy is a chest-shaver, and as a result, has a prickly/pickle-y chest.
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: UnderTheRadar on November 12, 2008, 02:32:08 PM
essentials - openminded and tolerant. curious about the world, about different people and different viewpoints. 

dealbreakers - ...voting republican.


Hmmmm, that doesn't sound openminded and tolerant of different viewpoints... does it??   :|
Title: Re: what are your "deal breakers"?
Post by: Scl Nwkr on April 23, 2009, 10:45:41 PM
Women with no class or low class :roll: